Our birth language…does not give us a way of expressing ourselves that is true to ourselves, and that is in alignment with our true nature. Our birth language is no longer sufficient to meet the demands of the new emerging era.Author Louis Koster, MD, is an internationally acclaimed physician who has developed a new self-help mechanism for people who are like he used to be—indecisive, insecure, and unguided.
Koster, from the Netherlands, grew up with advantages aplenty. From earliest childhood he admired his father, a surgeon, and the urge to help others through medicine was his greatest wish. He was able to fulfill that wish by going to medical school. He found much of the study tedious until he finally was allowed to work directly with patients. His surprise and dismay were nearly overwhelming, then, when he was told he wasn’t suited to be a doctor because he had a stammer. It altered the course of his life.
He sent the governing board of the university a letter in which “I basically gave them the finger.” He realized in his emotional devastation that he had no language to express his being, and he resolved to heal himself and find that means of expression. He began to practice talking to people, taking it as an exercise to strike up conversations with strangers. He became more courageous, realizing that undergoing humiliation did not diminish him as a person. Instead it gave him a sense of freedom. Later he traveled to Spain and studied flamenco dancing, becoming pretty good at it and enjoying the sense of empowerment it gave him. While in Spain he met some people who practiced medicine in troubled parts of the world, and that seemed his destiny. He went back to medical school and fulfilled their requirement that he not stammer throughout the rest of his course. He succeeded, and went to work for Doctors without Borders, working in war zones and trouble spots around the world.
Based on his extraordinary experience, which he believes is in fact common to all of us, Koster developed a self-help methodology that starts with The Choice: to be “a happy, fulfilled person, and satisfied, no matter what the circumstances of my life are.” From this basic choice come changes that could be called unanticipated but welcome consequences. It becomes easier to forgive those who have wronged you because you are free within yourself; you become aware of the light of awareness and you can bring that awareness into your daily life; you begin to use language that affirms your own right to be satisfied with whatever circumstances you find yourself in, no longer dreaming of some far off day when rescue will come from outside or reckoning will be enacted against those who have wronged you. You shift from the “language of ‘I’ to the ‘language of ‘being,’” willing to take responsibility. From being, or wanting to feel, self-important, you become one of those rare individuals who “evokes a presence.”
As a counselor for job seekers, I can attest to the significance of developing the traits Koster recommends. Those who develop those traits, who have made The Choice, are far more likely to succeed at whatever they undertake. They will have a higher level of integrity and responsibility that inevitably affects those around them. Koster believes that we must evolve with the times, and learn to speak a new language that suits the new age we are entering. His book is an inspirational and practical guide through that process. As the author states, “A New Language for Life will make it clear how we can make the most of the future.”